Re: The walls fell?
Huh. I don't know what to make of you, Anon. On the one hand, I feel pretty judged or presumed upon (that's not a phrase, but it means what I'm thinking) by some of your post. You don't REALLY know why I do what I do, do ya? Is it really a ploy to keep everyone at a distance, my "line"? Honestly, it's not . . . that'd make me a pretty shallow romantic comedy movie character. I don't have a set series of walls or defenses trying to "keep people out" or not get too close. Not at ALL. The truth is that I really, actually want to move. Crazy, huh!?

Nor have I ever searched the bar crowd, nor do I think of my girlfriend as part of a "divorced or single mom" crowd. To say so seems generalized, pigeonholing.

But then again, there seems to be geniune feeling there, goodwill, and interest. Which I appreciate. I don't believe you intend any judgement or stereotyping or assuming. So I guess I'll just respond as I did with this entry, pointing out how you seem to come across to me, giving you that feedback to take or leave as you will. In my teambuilding training they call it a "gift," that kinda feedback, because what you're doing is letting the person know what they seem like to others, and if you give them a hand in modifying their communication to better able get across what they're talking about, they'll have better interactions with people later on down the line. Of course, giving feedback in a safe environment like a teambuilding course or a weekend retreat is different than doing it in everyday life, where it can come across, perhaps like my voice right now, as presumptous. That's not my intent, so I hope it's not sounding that way!

Anyway, "talk" to you, I guess, later ;).